Inside the Tension, Temptation & Tough Decision of a Man at a Crossroads


That anonymous confession set social media on fire. And it’s not hard to see why.

It’s the classic Naija dilemma in 2025 — security vs success, home vs hope, love vs lifestyle. With Nigeria’s economic challenges on one side and the dream of “abroad” on the other, thousands of families are facing this exact question every day. But when you’re earning ₦5 million a month, is relocation still worth it?

After combing through over 50 honest, unfiltered responses from Nigerians across the world. Here’s what we uncovered about this viral moment — and the conversation every power couple needs to have.

The Tweets Don’t Lie: “You Want to Trade Kingship for Kitchen Portering?”

Segun didn’t hold back:

“At ₦5M net, you have no business going to the UK. Don’t let your wife gaslight you — this is likely peer pressure from friends abroad showing off.”

Abu Mumeen echoed the hard financial truth:

“To enjoy what ₦5M gives you in Nigeria, you’d need to earn at least £5,000 after tax in the UK. That’s no small feat without a guaranteed role.”

D.O. gave a brutally honest perspective:

“She’s listening to people who will later teach her to disregard you in a land where men are mostly treated like furniture. That ‘it’s for the kids’ talk is often a scam.”

Real-Life Example: “My Friend Sent His Wife to the UK First. Three Years Later…”

Jay shared a striking story that mirrors the situation:

“My friend was heading African operations in his company. His wife pressured him to let her relocate first. Three years later, she’s still jobless and planning to return to Nigeria mid-2025. Thankfully, he didn’t resign.”

Sound familiar?

Money, Men & Marriage: What’s Really at Stake?

Let’s be honest. Earning ₦5M per month in Nigeria puts you in the top 1%. It means:
• Private school fees? Paid.
• Three cars? No problem.
• Family holidays? Dubai or Maldives?
• Savings & investments? Solid.

Why would anyone give that up… unless the pressure to relocate is rooted in more than logic?

Adekunle put it best:

“Many relocate just for the sake of saying they’ve ‘gone abroad’. That alone is not a good enough reason.”

Flip the Script: What If the Answer Is “Both”?

Tolulope Abeey offered the most balanced response:

“Take the ₦5M job. Relocate your wife and kids to the UK. That way, you’ve given them security and a future. You can always shuttle back and forth.”

Win-win? Maybe. But it depends on your values, mental strength, and your marriage’s foundation.

The Ultimate Checklist: Before You Trade ₦5M for the Unknown…

• Do you have a job waiting for you in the UK?
  If not, it’s like stepping into a storm with an umbrella made of paper.

• Have you done a cost-of-living comparison?
  From council tax to rent to heating bills — £5,000 in London won’t stretch the way ₦5M does in Lekki or Maitama.

• Are you emotionally ready to start over?
  No more sirens, no more gate man. Just survival jobs and “sorry we can’t verify your foreign experience.”

• Is this a joint dream — or someone else’s pressure?
  A move abroad without shared vision can break even the strongest marriages.

Final Word: Is Abroad Still the Dream?

Hujjah tweeted:

“If this was 2019, everyone would say go. But now, eyes are clearer. Oga sir, ₦5M monthly? Relocation shouldn’t even be a consideration.”

But one lone comment from Chike broke the echo chamber:

“You can make more than ₦5M with some cheap jobs in the UK. Listen to your wife. Follow your heart.”

Our Take at Japaforum:

#Relocation is not a trend — it’s a life reset. If you’re trading financial power and local influence for a country where you’re invisible and unemployed, think twice.

Still, if your long-term goals involve dual citizenship, better education, and long-range security, then plan your exit wisely. Not emotionally.

Just never forget this quote we saw from Tunde Morakinyo:

“I hope you’re not destined to see shege in the UK.”


What would YOU do in his shoes?
Stay in Nigeria with ₦5M a month or move abroad for the family’s future?