A social media post by Temmy Omoileri has sparked widespread discussion on remarriage, blended families and the emotional pressures faced by single parents, following the reported death of a close friend.

Writing on X, Omoileri said she had just received news of the death of a woman who remarried four years ago after spending a decade single following a divorce. According to her account, the woman, who was not Nigerian, had three children from two previous relationships and later married a Nigerian man she was introduced to through a pastor.


Omoileri said she had personal reservations about the marriage, particularly given the dynamics involved.


According to the post, the woman travelled to Nigeria to marry the man and later sponsored him to Canada. Omoileri noted that the woman’s children reportedly did not accept the marriage and were not on good terms with the man.

“Her death hits me really hard today. She’s a very lovely lady,” Omoileri wrote. “The man is here in Canada already and she is gone. Her kids aren’t relating with the man.”

Reflections on remarriage and blended families

Using the incident to reflect more broadly, Omoileri cautioned single mothers against marrying partners with no prior experience of marriage or parenting.

“Please ladies, if you’re married before with kids, don’t go for a single guy that’s never married,” she wrote. “There’s so much expectation on a single guy who’s never married before… It takes a lot to accept or raise someone else’s kids when you’ve not had yours.”

She described remarriage after divorce — particularly when children are involved — as “extremely traumatic and draining,” urging single parents to prioritise their health and wellbeing.

“Please don’t die. Live for the children,” she wrote. “Stress kills faster than you can imagine.”

Personal experience and cultural pressures

Omoileri also shared insights from her own blended family, describing the emotional and cultural challenges involved, particularly in cross-cultural marriages involving Nigerian men.

“Imagine having a wife whose kids aren’t accepting him — the pressure, the stress, the emotional traumas,” she said, noting how misunderstandings can quickly escalate within such families.

She highlighted the impact of social judgement and stereotypes, including assumptions that men marry for immigration benefits.

“Especially if a woman keeps hearing, ‘he’s marrying you for citizenship’… these idle talks break marital communion,” she wrote.

Quoting Proverbs 17:22, Omoileri emphasised the importance of emotional wellbeing, saying prolonged stress and emotional strain could have serious consequences.

A call for empathy

She concluded by calling for greater empathy towards single parents navigating remarriage and blended family life.

“It takes grace and intentionality to keep the fire of love burning without burnout in the midst of family chaos,” she wrote. “Not the man’s fault or the woman’s fault — life just happens to us all differently.”